The End of Mrs T? What 2018 Has Taught Me.

A change of mindset

This year has seen a change in attitude. I feel like I have become more relaxed about things. This does not mean I do not get stressed as I did previously, but rather I am able to recognise that I cannot control everything. I have come to accept that I cannot change situations or people around me, however, I can choose how I react to things.

I have also stopped worrying as much about people accepting and liking me. I am unique in my own way and I am proud of it. I am perfectly imperfect in every way. I will not apologise for who I am or how I am. I feel that the song ‘This is me’ from The Greatest Showman has been my theme song for the year.

I am unsure when this change came about, it is a combination of things throughout the year. This year has had massive highs as well as crushing low points. I have learnt so much of myself, my values and what is important to me in just this one year. Even though it has been exhausting, it has been one of the most eye-opening years.

Lessons were learnt

This year has taught me valuable lessons that I would like to share with you. Having my eyes opened and coming out of ‘auto-pilot’ has meant that I have been able to observe the world around me. I see the same patterns happening time and time again which result in people questioning themselves and humanity. I find myself thinking or saying these things time and again but people rarely listen; they are too consumed by the drama of it all.

1) Life is not fair

I am sorry to say but life is not ‘fair’. It will never be ‘fair’. Bad stuff happens to good people. It is not some divine force ‘punishing’ them, neither is it their fault. Accept that you will get hurt and sometimes there is nothing you can do but deal with it the best you can do.

2) Acceptance

Accepting things that are out of your control is not a sign of weakness. You cannot control other people, nor can you control what happens in the future. You do not need to worry about it until it happens.

3) Fact or fiction?

Recognise that your thoughts are NOT FACTS. Also, recognise that other people’s opinions are formed by themselves and are based upon their own experience of life. Thoughts do not define you as a person, neither do the other peoples opinions.

4) Gratitude

It is much better to be grateful for what you have than complain about what you do not have.

5) Nourish your soul

If something does not nourish you; why do it? I understand that people have to do things they do not like, but letting yourself get annoyed at something that you hate is counterproductive. Instead, find a way that you can ‘cheat the system’ and make it more bearable or just stop spending your time on it.

Why do I blog?

Lesson number five has been weighing on my mind for a considerable time now in connection with my blog. There have been times this year when my blog has been a chore; it has infuriated me and drove me to the point of giving up many a time.

I am a deep thinker and love to write; even if it is about makeup and whatever Beauty Guru Drama has hit the headlines. However, as my love for the makeup and the beauty community has dwindled, so has my motivation to blog about it.

Also, I have been a slave to the ‘regular posting schedule’ advice that is given to any blogger when they start. Having to blog every single week, or twice a week has driven me to dread picking up my tablet and writing. I used to be one month ahead of myself and create 8/9 posts a month which images. When did I find the time to do all of that?

When I started blogging, I had a foolish hope that something could possibly come out of it. I lost myself in dreams of becoming a full-time writer and living the life of Gurus such as Louise Pentland who is an idol of mine. I have come to realise that millions of other people have the same/similar dreams and that I need to face some home truths.

I have always said ‘my blog is for me and if I help people then it is a bonus’. My blog has become a ‘chore’ that I do not believe in. I currently resent updating it, checking my statistics which are usually low and promoting it on social media. I have begun to hate the blogging game.

Reclaiming my blog

My metaphorical foot has been put down. I will not be a slave to my blog again. If I do not want to post, I will not force it. I have done nearly two years of continuous blogging and I have proved I can keep up. It is time to have a break. I do not know how long this break will be, nor do I know whether this will mark the end of my blogging.

I have a full-time job, a family and a life to live. I refuse to claim myself to something that I am not passionate about doing. If I feel like I want to write about something, I will do. However, what I write about is MY choice. I will not save all my empty products just to do an empties post if I do not want to. Empties posts are great; however, I find myself being less consumed by things related to shopping and reviews. I will not follow the latest Guru drama just because it is popular, I have better things to devote my time to do.

Finishing with a bang

I intend to finish the year with a bang. By this I mean I intend to spend the next two weeks having a break. I intend on focusing on what is important, me.

I do not know what the future holds for ‘Life With Mrs T’. I intend to spend the year on things that bring me joy, if that involves writing then I will post it here. I will not be a slave to expectations anymore. I will adopt a more laid-back approach to things and hope that my enthusiasm will be ignited once more.

What do you think? I would love to know if any other people have struggles similar to this. What advice would you give?

Ciao for now beauties xx

13 Comments Add yours

  1. lporter18 says:

    Awesome blog! I love blogging because you can just let it all out and not care what others think or how they may feel. They will either read it and accept it or not. I think you have done a great job laying it all out for your readers to know how you feel and why you do what you do. Enjoy your break and I look forward to reading your future blog posts! Here’s to a better and stronger 2019!

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    1. MrsT says:

      Thanks you are too kind. Strangely enough my blog break has not really started yet. I have found myself still wanting to blog. I have not been putting pressure on myself but blogging when I fancy. I will probably run out of steam soon and have that break I planned. I love that with blogging it is your own little space and you can decide the terms. Thank you for being so supportive

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  2. ejaleigh says:

    I love this post. So much good advice here.

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    1. lifewithmrst says:

      Thank you, I am glad that my advice is useful

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  3. Donna Jones says:

    Aw, what a lovely post. I also felt ‘This is me’ was my song for 2018 and we all have our flaws. Social media can make us forget that there is normality behind the images we see. Don’t be so hard on yourself, its your blog and you post as much and as little as you want. Life is also hard, as well as unfair.

    Love
    Donna (www.lifeasmrsjones.com)

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    1. MrsT says:

      Thank you for your sweet words. I am currently struggling for time to write blog posts and I started feeling guilty, then I remembered that I run my blog on my own terms.

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  4. ZoBeautie says:

    I resonate with the uptick in growth that you’ve had. I feel like I’ve learned a lot about myself just within these last few months alone, and I’m really happy to see so many of us going up and not down.

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    1. MrsT says:

      In terms of numbers, my blog is down. However, I am learning so many more valuable lessons due to taking control and not being so hard on myself.

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  5. Judy says:

    I love your point about your blog. I started 4 Instagram accounts to try to promote something I thought I was passionate about but my motivations were wrong. I’m one week into blogging for the first time ever and I’m doing it on my terms about stuff that I want to write about. I’m not posting to try to get others to like me. It’s more of a journal for myself that I hope can help others, if nobody is into it though, it will still be a journal for me to look back on for myself. Continue to be true to you! Thank you for sharing.

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    1. MrsT says:

      That’s exactly as I started but as I learnt more about blogging I got bogged down by all the details of the ‘perfect’ post that I lost interest. I absolutely hate Instagram at times due to how frustrating and time consuming it is. I am thinking of writing a post about it in the future.

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  6. ellieslondon says:

    I like this; and I love that you say your thoughts are not facts. I really need to remind myself if this more, especially at this time of year x

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    1. MrsT says:

      I am constantly having to remind myself as it is so easy to fall into the habit of blaming yourself for every little thing that goes wrong.

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      1. ellieslondon says:

        I need to have this written down, somewhere I can see it every day ❤️ xx

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