A change of mindset
This year has seen a change in attitude. I feel like I have become more relaxed about things. This does not mean I do not get stressed as I did previously, but rather I am able to recognise that I cannot control everything. I have come to accept that I cannot change situations or people around me, however, I can choose how I react to things.
I have also stopped worrying as much about people accepting and liking me. I am unique in my own way and I am proud of it. I am perfectly imperfect in every way. I will not apologise for who I am or how I am. I feel that the song ‘This is me’ from The Greatest Showman has been my theme song for the year.
I am unsure when this change came about, it is a combination of things throughout the year. This year has had massive highs as well as crushing low points. I have learnt so much of myself, my values and what is important to me in just this one year. Even though it has been exhausting, it has been one of the most eye-opening years.
Lessons were learnt
This year has taught me valuable lessons that I would like to share with you. Having my eyes opened and coming out of ‘auto-pilot’ has meant that I have been able to observe the world around me. I see the same patterns happening time and time again which result in people questioning themselves and humanity. I find myself thinking or saying these things time and again but people rarely listen; they are too consumed by the drama of it all.
1) Life is not fair
I am sorry to say but life is not ‘fair’. It will never be ‘fair’. Bad stuff happens to good people. It is not some divine force ‘punishing’ them, neither is it their fault. Accept that you will get hurt and sometimes there is nothing you can do but deal with it the best you can do.
Accepting things that are out of your control is not a sign of weakness. You cannot control other people, nor can you control what happens in the future. You do not need to worry about it until it happens.
3) Fact or fiction?
Recognise that your thoughts are NOT FACTS. Also, recognise that other people’s opinions are formed by themselves and are based upon their own experience of life. Thoughts do not define you as a person, neither do the other peoples opinions.
It is much better to be grateful for what you have than complain about what you do not have.
5) Nourish your soul
If something does not nourish you; why do it? I understand that people have to do things they do not like, but letting yourself get annoyed at something that you hate is counterproductive. Instead, find a way that you can ‘cheat the system’ and make it more bearable or just stop spending your time on it.
Why do I blog?
Lesson number five has been weighing on my mind for a considerable time now in connection with my blog. There have been times this year when my blog has been a chore; it has infuriated me and drove me to the point of giving up many a time.
I am a deep thinker and love to write; even if it is about makeup and whatever Beauty Guru Drama has hit the headlines. However, as my love for the makeup and the beauty community has dwindled, so has my motivation to blog about it.
Also, I have been a slave to the ‘regular posting schedule’ advice that is given to any blogger when they start. Having to blog every single week, or twice a week has driven me to dread picking up my tablet and writing. I used to be one month ahead of myself and create 8/9 posts a month which images. When did I find the time to do all of that?
When I started blogging, I had a foolish hope that something could possibly come out of it. I lost myself in dreams of becoming a full-time writer and living the life of Gurus such as Louise Pentland who is an idol of mine. I have come to realise that millions of other people have the same/similar dreams and that I need to face some home truths.
I have always said ‘my blog is for me and if I help people then it is a bonus’. My blog has become a ‘chore’ that I do not believe in. I currently resent updating it, checking my statistics which are usually low and promoting it on social media. I have begun to hate the blogging game.
Reclaiming my blog
My metaphorical foot has been put down. I will not be a slave to my blog again. If I do not want to post, I will not force it. I have done nearly two years of continuous blogging and I have proved I can keep up. It is time to have a break. I do not know how long this break will be, nor do I know whether this will mark the end of my blogging.
I have a full-time job, a family and a life to live. I refuse to claim myself to something that I am not passionate about doing. If I feel like I want to write about something, I will do. However, what I write about is MY choice. I will not save all my empty products just to do an empties post if I do not want to. Empties posts are great; however, I find myself being less consumed by things related to shopping and reviews. I will not follow the latest Guru drama just because it is popular, I have better things to devote my time to do.
Finishing with a bang
I intend to finish the year with a bang. By this I mean I intend to spend the next two weeks having a break. I intend on focusing on what is important, me.
I do not know what the future holds for ‘Life With Mrs T’. I intend to spend the year on things that bring me joy, if that involves writing then I will post it here. I will not be a slave to expectations anymore. I will adopt a more laid-back approach to things and hope that my enthusiasm will be ignited once more.
What do you think? I would love to know if any other people have struggles similar to this. What advice would you give?
Ciao for now beauties xx