Unleashing my inner sass
For the past year I have been on a journey of discovery; I have been experiencing a kind of spiritual awakening that has changed my perspective on things. I have been finding my inner sass. Don’t get me wrong, I have always had a certain amount of sass in my personality, being as eccentric as I am you need a little bit of spark and confidence about yourself. However over the past year I have been developing a good degree of ‘I am the Queen of my own castle; watch me be fabulous’.
Is it a midlife crisis?
It is possible that this new change in perspective could be some form of ‘mid life crisis’? I am not entirely sure; I have been looking back on how quickly time is passing, I have been revisiting the music of my youth and looking back. I left high school 20 years ago; that milestone seems to have hit me like a ton of bricks with ‘you are getting old’ written on them. I have come to the realisation that time passes so quickly that you need to embrace things as much as you can, make yourself happy and not worry so much.
What has this all got to do with ‘inner sass’?
The moments of reflection and the realisation that time has slipped past so quickly has brought about the conclusion that I have been ‘selling myself short’ in many ways; my family life, my career and my own sense of self-worth. It is not a coincidence that my new-found respect for myself has coincided with making some truly sassy friends who have encouraged me to be more confident with myself and not compare myself to others. They have seen me at my best and worst and have not judged me, only encouraged and been honest with me. I feel like they have encouraged the same qualities in myself and for that I am truly grateful; I have become more confident with speaking to people in general and have re-discovered that the best way to be is to boost others and value myself because you know what, I’m awesome.
When I use the words ‘I’m awesome’ I am not insinuating that I am perfect, far from it; I make many mistakes and have my own hang ups about myself, just like everyone else does. I’m not saying that I am any better or any worst than anybody else because, guess what, I am just the same as everyone else. I am saying that ‘there is only one of me and I am a pretty awesome person, I’m unique and special in my own way.’ I have just as much value in this world as everyone else, so I am going to celebrate myself and make myself happy, as L’Oréal says ‘I’m worth it’
Life is too short, I have found recent events in the news has really driven this home to me. Why spend all of my life worrying about ‘fitting in’ or changing myself to be accepted by others, over analysing and scrutinising other people’s moves like a game of chess. I am going to be myself, myself and nothing but myself. I am not hurting anyone with being myself (if I do I would own it and humbly apologise), if that is not to other peoples tastes, then they can just walk away and leave me to it. I try not to spend my time on things that make me unhappy; I now very rarely watch films I know I will not like, I do not listen to sad music that reminds me of past pain, what is the point? Why choose to spend time on negative things or things that do not make you happy?
Foot in mouth
This new-found outlook does come with it’s costs; I have a bit of a sharp sense of humour at times and I sometimes get a huge case of ‘foot in mouth syndrome’. I usually revert back and worry that I have hurt someone’s feelings, but if I had then they should have the sass to tell me, I’m a big girl, I can take it and if I upset people I will see their side and make amends. I can come across as a bit blunt and straightforward at times but again, that is part of my unique DNA that makes me, me.
Be your own Superhero
Whether it’s Wonder Woman or Superman, Daredevil or Phoenix; you have your own talents and abilities, use them to create happiness and good within your life. You are stronger than you think and if you put your mind to it, you can do anything (that’s legal, of course). So grab your tool of choice, be it paintbrush, pen or eyeshadow palette, and go and make magic happen. Make yourself happy, love yourself for being you and most importantly boost and love the ones around you, whether you are:
- The sassiest and strongest queen I know, who has survived with integrity and tenacity.
- You are a RuPaul diva that does car karaoke to Wilson Phillips and makes me laugh so much.
- Are so positive, kind and maternal and are so inspirational both as a makeup artist and a person
- Does not apologise for ‘embracing the madness’; a true Lioness of all her ‘cubs.’
- A beautiful smiling tease with cheeky spark that lights up the room.
- You adore ponies and kick ass in everything you do, who is the bravest person I know.
- Love darkness and being a grumpy ‘git’, but is the best listener out there.
- Or are just plain flipping bonkers in the best, most epic proportions, who talks about Susan, pizza and Tom Hardy way too much.
Be yourself; you are amazing. Ciao for now makeup fans xx