Parenting can be ridiculous
Parenting can be a massive pain in the backside. Sometimes it feels like trying to succeed as a parent is like juggling with chainsaws while riding a unicycle, impossible. As I have said in my Mrs T’s guide to motherhood, there is so much pressure to ‘succeed’ and ‘do the right thing for your child’ that sometimes being a parent can feel like you are an ass.
Whatever you do for the best, you come across as the villain.
You will request your child eats their vegetables and they cry like you have requested them to slaughter a baby rabbit. You ask them to play with their toys and turn the TV off and you are met with the waterworks. I have made my children cry so many times and none of it was intentional. I did things that was in their best interest.
It is ridiculous to start crying at the slightest of inconveniences but that is what children do best; convince their parents that they are evil dictators through the use of tears and wailing. However, children need this time to test the limits of their brain as well as their parent’s sanity.
The first years of a child’s life are the most fundamental and can impact on how they navigate adulthood. Testing their emotions will help them develop a true self of sense.
Sense of self
If you have ever seen the film ‘Inside Out’ you might be aware of the immense power of the brain and how it moulds and shapes a person. The first two years of a child’s life is critical to their future development; brain patterns and attitudes are built that are not easily altered.
Children need this time to test the world and the people around them and in a stable, caring environment they will develop a clear sense of themselves and their worthy part of society. You can find out more about this in this video by the School of Life.
Have a sense of humour; you will need it as a parent.
The act of parenting can make you feel like a failure at times. It tests your limits like no other job and unlike an actual job, you cannot escape it or get a new one. It is, however, the most rewarding job when things go well and to plan. These are the times that make parenting worth it because 80% of the time things do not go well and you wonder why other people say children are the ‘greatest gift’.
I recommend a healthy dose of humour when it comes to parenting; laugh at the ridiculous moments where you feel like you are about to lose your mind; just don’t let your children catch you doing it.
20 Ridiculous things that caused my kids to cry.
- My daughter had sticky hands from eating a banana.
- I would not give her the old, dirty dummy I found in her bedroom; she does not even use a dummy.
- I took away a satsuma that my daughter did not want to eat.
- My son had to wear trousers instead of shorts to school, it was freezing outside.
- I gave my son his dinner.
- I would not give my daughter extra spicy curry that I had left over.
- My son would not let my daughter sit on a chair.
- My daughter farted in my son’s general direction; she does stink.
- Not being allowed to take her fruit shoot into the soft play area.
- I took my sons juice bottle from my daughter and gave her back her juice bottle.
- The hot wheels cars and track would not do what my son wanted.
- I changed the channel over to watch flog it (an adult program).
- I made my daughter climb down the stairs herself rather than carry her entitled behind down for her.
- Whenever I wash my kid’s hair.
- I wanted to play with my son but I would not follow his directions precisely.
- I started dancing and singing when my son did not want me to sing.
- Making my son do his homework and read his book.
- I gave my son/daughter a hug.
- It was the holidays and my son could not go to school.
- It was school time and my son could not stay at home.
The parental mind mess up is real; children are designed to blow up at ridiculous things. What ridiculous reasons have you seen cause children to cry? Whether it is your own or other people’s children, let’s share them.
Do you think there is a ‘textbook’ response to these outbursts? I would love to know what your thoughts are in the comments.
Ciao for now beauties xx